So, I'm stepping up to a bigger tank this weekend

I found a nice stand at PetSmart, and I had a 30% off coupon so I got stand and two hoods for a reasonable price.
Should I get one big heater or two smaller ones at each end? What size heater should I use?
I'm going with an under gravel filter because I've used them for years and have had good results from them. Any recommendations on air pumps? This is going in the bedroom next to the bed. I don't mind the bubbling, but the humming of the pump drives me nutso. I have a Rena pump, but it's very noisy so I gave it to the kids for their tank. I'm using a (tetra fin?) one of those with a big adjusment dial on the top that goes from 5-30 gallons. It's very very quiet, and so I'm tempted to get two of them. Is there an alternative to air stones in the risers that gives good flow but is quiet? I'm more interested in quiet then anything else.
Lastly, how deep would you suggest I put the gravel, and is there any type of gravel that would work better for an underground filter besides the run of the mill gravel you buy at your LFS?